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An lrishwoman of the 'sixties tells her
as told to Angela Byrne
by Angela Kasey
Copyright 2000 Angela Byrne
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It was over thirty years ago when it happened. l
feeling unwell for a couple of weeks and so l went
to see a
doctor. No my own G.P.., but one close to the
office where l
worked. She examined me and took a couple of
days later l received a phone call in the office.
It was the
doctor. "You are four months pregnant"
was the message
she gave me. It was beyond me. Shock, dismay, fear.
that time no precautionary measures had been in
l was having an affair with a married man, my boss.
He was stunned, he wanted to talk to my
father. l said no.
He said he would leave his wife, l would not have
For the next five months my actions were normal.
pregnancy was actually hidden from my family,
the same clothes, going to work, socialising. No
one at all
suspected, at least l thought so. One Friday
evening l told
my family l was off on a week's holiday with a
friend of mine.
That night l checked into a private nursing home.
the father was with me, paying in advance for my
was two days before l went into labour. l have
forgotten this. It was so bad l actually asked the
phone my mother. Of course she never did.
A baby boy was born. l never saw him.
l went back to work and l still went out with my
baby was brought into the conversation now and
mostly when he had a few drinks. l kept
hoping for some
miracle that would allow me to see and keep my
The adoption papers were not signed for six months.
out, hoping something, anything, would happen. l
to go and see the baby. l was so naive, and the
father left me
l did give him a name though, and after all the
years l found
it was still the same. Every year when his
along l was absolutely filled with sadness and
regret. l never
wanted to give him away, but it was a time in
lreland when it
was a bad thing to have a baby out of wedlock.
After a few years l married. No more children
borne by me to my regret. l never told my husband
happened in the past. l did see my former
lover a few times
but the baby was never mentioned by him.
After all the years, the time has come when shortly
l will see
my baby, now a grown man with children of his own.
has come about after many years of searching, and
my plans are now coming to fruition. Through a
worker l have had my first letter from my son. He
his adoptive parents are loving kind people. That
lightened my heart. l will be seeing him
soon, and feel very
nervous but happy about this. He has told me
in his letter
he knew he was adopted when he was 7 years
old and has
always wondered about me.
l have told him l never wanted to let him go. He
always been and always will be in my heart.
l have sporadically kept in touch with his father.
But he still
never talks about his son, although should all go
well l am
sure he will want to see him. We both must
is a grown man now, but to me he will always be my
l wonder how l will feel when we meet.
l know l am only one of many thousands of
went through the same thing. We can only be
society has changed now for the better.
lt was a sad lonely time, but soon it will be a
I am happy to say that this lady and her son were
reunited and are now happily living in the U.S.A. where her son is
married and a whole new life has begun for her.